Comments on: Me [29 M], how important is higher education to you in seeking a partner

By: Deckard_Macready

Deckard_Macready — Fri, 05 Aug 2022 18:59:15 +0000

Yeah, I have a 4-year degree and have a white-collar job, and I do not care if someone I’m seeing went to college. However, I do care what they did INSTEAD of going to college. If they actually learned a trade and are able to support themselves well, then great. If they just goofed off got high and stayed in mom and dad’s basement, not so great. I don’t care as long as they’re self-supporting and not living paycheck to paycheck.

Since some women DO care though, you may want to ask your friends who set you up on blind dates to filter them out for you before you waste more time. Ask them not to send you any women who care about whether you’re degreed or not, but make sure to have them mention to any potential blind dates that you do have a skilled trade, you’re not working at McDonalds. (Whereas many college graduates ARE!)

By: frank

frank — Fri, 05 Aug 2022 18:57:00 +0000

I do think some people will see it as a negative because college-goers get the whole higher-education-is-better thing drilled into their heads before, during, and after school. But these days, it seems like a lot of college degrees just guarantee you debt.

I think if you presented it differently, you’d get better results. When asked, instead of ‘I didn’t go to college’, tell them about how you were fascinated by plumbing or whatever and went straight into apprenticing, then talk about what you do now. Honestly I don’t think a lot of people care so much about college – they just want to know that you’re a grown-ass adult who can take care of himself, and are using that as a shorthand.

By: Vince

Vince — Fri, 05 Aug 2022 18:56:24 +0000

I was 3 years into a biology degree before I bailed because I was taking loans out and each year I assessed where I would be at the end and thought “man, I’m a) not going to be able to find a job easily with this and b) pay off these insane loans”.

So I bailed. I didn’t re-register for the fall semester and I went to a trade school instead and got a diploma through an IT program. I got a job 3 months after graduating and am now in a very comfortable position.

Do I still absolutely love biology? 100%, but realistically I like living comfortably more. Trade school was a hell of a lot cheaper, faster, and the jobs are higher in demand. It was an easy decision. I would never think of myself as “tech person” but IT jobs are in high demand and I catch on to it quickly, and I more or less enjoy my day to day work.

I like my job, and while it isn’t my PASSION, it’s what enables me to have the financial freedom to do what I want with my free time. If I stuck with the degree I was doing I’d be in the same boat that 99% of the people I was in that degree program with are in now, NOT working in a field they have a degree in and struggling to find work.

By: RefrainsFromPartakin

RefrainsFromPartakin — Fri, 05 Aug 2022 18:55:32 +0000

It’s not a deal breaker for me. I have master’s degree and my boyfriend only went to two semesters of college. That’s not important. What is important is that he’s the smartest, sweetest guy I’ve ever dated. The whole imperative that everyone go to college is about as irrelevant as the imperative that everyone get married to someone of the opposite sex and have 2.3 kids and a picket fence. As long as you’re an interesting, smart, loving guy, most women worth your time won’t care about your education credentials. Also, you probably make a bunch more money than most college grads.

By: frank

frank — Fri, 05 Aug 2022 18:55:03 +0000

It all depends on your major. A degree in something really marketable, that you love doing and can’t learn on the job, makes a lot of sense. But a lot of ppl get pricey degrees in a field that will hire you without a degree, like getting a starting job as a bank teller with a degree in business. Now you have the same low-level job you would have with a high-school diploma but you also now have a student loan to pay off. Better to get a shitty job as a pharmacy tech at a company like Rite Aid that is desperate for pharmacists, who will pay your way through pharmacy school if you will work for them afterwards. The degree is needed but you don’t handicap yourself by paying for it when you don’t need to. And you start at almost 100K a year. But if you’re going to own a bookstore or a construction business, learn it on the job. Don’t waste time and money on a degree.